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  • What Stops You from Living your Dream?

    2009-04-19 2:05AM / 標準BLOG / 會員可以看
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    I head the other day some one say

    "It     doesn't take any more time to dream a big dream than a little dream.  Why not dream big?"


    What stops you from living your dream?  Have you ever asked yourself this question?  I ask my students that question and it is interesting that many times it is not the obvious answer.  It is not finding the right monologue for actors or finding the right hairdo.  No, when it comes down to it, most of the time it is our own inner fear. It is something that is inside you.  It can be something that happened to you lately or as a child where someone probably not intentionally or sometimes intentionally "killed your dream". 

    I always feel so honored when my students tell me that many times what they needed was not just a better acting technique (although that is important too) but it is to find a way to fight the fear and be able to do what they love to do.

    Yes I work with a lot of professional actors but I also work with people who never want to be actors but they do want to be able to speak in groups and lead in their company or business. They want to figure out why they are afraid and why they stop themselves. 

    Lately I worked with a woman who found that she was stopping herself in her business by her huge fear of standing up and speaking to a group of people.  A friend of hers recommended that she come to me.  I told her as I tell most people who call that I don't have the answers but I know how to find the answers.  Why do I say that because the answers are always inside the student.  And they are distinctive to that person and his or her life experiences. 

    What is so exciting for me is to be able to help someone find out why they are stopping themselves and how to fix it.  Simple and Plain.  But that is what works.  And yes I find using acting exercises can help to make that happen.  Why?  Because when we are free to imagine to make believe stuff happens.  Yeah I know that is messy explanation. But life sometimes is messy sometimes but there is always a way to figure it out.  That's why I call myself a detective.  Looking for clues and figuring out the mystery of this person. 

    With this person on the first night we worked she discovered the reason that had started this fear and for her that made a huge difference in her life.  It was such an emotional moment both for her and for me too.  The joy I feel when a person breaks down a barrier is amazing.   With this person other exciting events came out of this experience.  She found that she could reclaim some family relationships and she became more comfortable getting up and speaking.  Now don't get me wrong  we still needed to practice the actual speaking in public.  She still needs to work on that.  But for this person finding the reason behind her fear made a huge difference for her and she now knows that she can become comfortable in front of groups of people and I think she will become a very inspiring and exciting speaker for her business. 

    We all have fears that keep us from accomplishing something that is important to us.  Finding a way past that is one of the residual effects that happens for people in my acting workshops who may not want to be actors but want to be able to do what they dream of doing.  That belief in yourself doesn't just come by someone telling you to do it. By allowing yourself to "play" in  a make believe situation,  to pretend to be someone else and analyze that person's life, to realize that everyone not just you have inner battles,  many times people discover strengths they never realized they had.   It comes from trying something that scares you like an acting workshop or a new class and discovering abilities you find in yourself  to succeed in whatever you decide to do.  

    So I do  agree with that person who said,

    It doesn't take any more time to dream a big dream than a little dream.  Why not dream big?

    And if I can be of some help to people to find their way to their dreams and learn how to get past their own fears, I am honored to do so. 

    So face your fears and go after your dreams.  Now is the time!

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  • JasonChau
    JasonChau
    留言於2009-04-30 4:38AM [举报]
    What Stops You from Living your Dream? Erm....procrastination hahahaha!! Actually its a lot more than that....

    We learn a lot from procrastination and mistakes. You might not believe me Jeanne but I was rather shy when I was younger, and going through much despite having quite a stable family life, I realised with my procrastination I made some poor decisions which affected my personal life deeply. I once knew someone during my teenage years and wanted to ask her out. But my procrastination stepped in...and the girl eventually chose someone else. Had I made the move earlier I would have probably been married by the time I was 24. But then again some things were never meant to be. But certainly learning the courage to speak my mind (because of what I had gone through) had helped immensely. I've since learned to stop procrastinating the hard way. This was on top of previous experience I had as a child model (where I once modeled for Benetton for 3 years including catwalk shows during the 80s.).

    You know people asked me before, why did I move away from London all the way to HK 3 years ago? I said because I only have one life. Despite being born there and lived there for so long, I wanted to be in Asia. For a long time (years) I dreamed of living in Asia and feeling and seeing the sights....because I wanted to feel what it was like to be there. In the place where my parents grew up but a place I never really knew except during short stays once every 3 years.

    Now that I am here of course I am happy. But that was what HK was like for me prior to my move. It was a distant and impossible dream to live in Asia's most populous city. I was only ever at best here for 3 weeks at a time (at Christmas). Yet for me that dream strangely and miraculously came true in 2006.......because I (along with my family) was willing to give everything up.

    I realised that in order to live your dream you really have to be true to yourself and ask yourself 'Is this truly what you want in life?'. This is the question my father has always posed us, and also poses his friends and clients whenever they feel unsure about their life ie. leaving a job or making a change. He says whenever you feel unsure about something, ask this question and you will find the answer. For me it was a resounding 'Yes!'. To be here was what I really wanted......I didn't want to be anywhere else....so we did all that we could to be here (in HK).

    As it goes I am very happy right now living here in HK. In fact I have never been happier. :) Since we last met I've moved to a new studio in Chai Wan, and we did a photo exhibition recently with Chow Yun Fat which was exhibited here in HK and supported by Epson and by HK's Leisure and Cultural Services Department. I now work with my father in our own high quality digital capture and print studio for photos and open/limited fine art reproduction prints, the first and only in HK to do so (up to 60" wide!) and we've now secured our first major client. Its taken a while to put together (2 years)....but its something we'd always wanted to do....to bring great photography and art to the masses. I hope with this a lot more people can be exposed to good quality photography/art in Asia, and thus allow them to think in a more creative sense (which is very important I believe for any developing economy). Art and photography as it stands is one of the biggest economies in the world, at least in the US and Europe. Its also one of the reasons why I believe their economies have been so resilient over the years compared to the Middle East or parts of eastern Europe.

    There's certainly nothing wrong with thinking big and living your dreams. I am living mine now for sure. ^^ The most important thing I believe is to have faith and stop worrying about the details and just go ahead with the decision and do what you feel in your heart. If you want to do something just go ahead and do it, don't ask questions or delay it, since they'll only cause you problems and delay it even further. Go with what your heart feels. As long as it doesn't hurt anyone else you should not have to worry about it.
  • lbenedict
    藝術家空間 Lawrence Benedict
    留言於2009-04-20 5:35AM [举报]
    Great blog Jeanne. Something interesting jumped out at me that I didn't expect. You said "many times people discover strengths... It comes from trying something that scares you like an acting workshop..."  It may be one reason why some introverted people turn out to be wonderful actors. There was a unique cost involved for them... a real risk had to be taken, and when they overcame it they gained a very special strength. Thanks so much for sharing that with us. From the comments I see you got us all thinking!
  • jayden1lee
    jayden1lee
    留言於2009-04-20 3:27AM [举报]
    *FAITH* is an important factor in human's path
    always think POSITIVE n BIG..then our mind will
    go along with it..comeon every1..let's be a BIG
    dreamer...cheers...
  • pokedpenguin19
    pokedpenguin19
    留言於2009-04-19 3:00PM [举报]
    sometimes a big dream seems unrealistic at the point in time at which you stand. sometimes the little dreams help build up the confidence or experience TO dream big. :P
  • rottendoubt
     rottendoubt
    留言於2009-04-19 1:44PM [举报]
    ya, i stop myself in the same way...
  • elliotjbrown
    藝術家空間 Elliott J. Brown
    留言於2009-04-19 9:54AM [举报]
    Can I study with you here in LA? :)
  • lydiakuan
    藝術家空間 Lydia Kuan
    留言於2009-04-19 5:21AM [举报]
    Someone once told me she didn't dream because she had no ability to dream and that when you did dream you had to close your eyes and leave that vigil. She said, it was worse to dream and wake up in a living nightmare. How sad.
  • leandro
    leandro
    留言於2009-04-19 2:38AM [举报]
    This works for artists who do not have courage to take risks on a project? There are many here who do not want to be leaders, only after someone big.

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