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  • Why Are Guys Unable To Apologize In Person?

    2008-04-25 12:45AM / 標準BLOG / 會員可以看
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    I hate guys who can't apologize in person. Why does it have to be online or something? What, is their ego too big or something? What the heck? WHY CAN'T ANYONE APOLOGIZE IN PERSON THESE DAYS?

     

    R got me pissed off last night. I told him in the morning that I'm having a bad day. No, does nothing sweet to cheer me up, he does some stupid ass shit to piss me off even more! Then back to my apt and he goes to work. He asked me to do a favor for him. I said sure, I got over it because we played with playdoh and that usually calms me down. Ya, you'll be seeing a playdoh blog from me soon.  

     

    So I did what he asked me to, of course he said his morning was fine and nothing out of the ordinary or anything off setting him. So I meet him at night to give him the stuff he needed. Apparently, he can't register for his classes because of some stupid thing he should have done A LONG ASS TIME AGO! So he's pissed off. Having a bad day from that time on, being stupid and even more annoying then the morning. I go home pissed and depressed.

     

    He goes home after night class and messages me online to say he's sorry for his actions. I'm sorry, that's SO FREAKING IMPERSONAL! He could have just called me.  He says he's having a really bad day from the get go. I'm sorry, why the heck didn't he just tell me to begin with, no excuss to make me feel even more worse during the freaking day. He could have just let me leave when I wanted to but no, he wouldn't let me leave. He made me even more mad by staying, so I ignore him for the rest of the night.

     

    Today, I'm suppose to meet him after his class to spend an hr with him before work. I'm thinking, why should I go? What the f**k for? I'm p oed enough as it is already and it's gonna freaking show.

     

    He isn't the only guy who has this problem. I've had a couple of others do the same da** thing. They CAN'T FREAKING APOLOGIZE PROPERLY!  Either he's sorry for OUR misunderstanding or he's sorry because WE aren't in a good mood. Why is it OUR and not just him apologizing for his stupid shit? Is there something wrong here?

     

    I apologize for the shit I do. I realize what I do wrong, why can't guys? Why can't they freaking apologize for what they do or say? They can't apologize for themselves? Is it a big ego thing?

    It's no wonder you guys are getting kicked where the sun don't shine!

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  • butter
    butter
    留言於2008-04-25 11:46PM [举报]
    Some guys just have problems communicating and can't express themselves properly.  There is a bit of male pride involved with that as well.  You're probably gonna have to tell him what you expect in this relationship as far as communication as explain to him why it's better to apologize in person which I happen to agree with you is the most acceptable and sincere way of doing so.  

    Play doh for stress -  I like that :)
  • pongza
    pongza
    留言於2008-04-25 11:07PM
    So, we almost broke up yesterday morning, least that's what I thought, as I walked away from him after seeing him for like 3 minutes. I was angry. He acted as if nothing happen til I brought it up.

    I called and apologized for my behavior. (Apparently, someone is pmsing ={ ) He got really disappointed and really p oed. After I call him to apologize which is like 17 minutes later, he calls back and asks me if I still want to go out on that tea date we set up the other day. Didn't confirm, told him to call me back.

    Later we came out to see each other. Apparently, it's my fault for not getting online??? So that I can receive the apology in person??? 0.o???? Okay...I'll let that one slide. But he did apologize to me in person too. I apologized I don't know how many times yesterday. I felt so bad.

    The EMW tea date, lol R got a cold green milk tea boba, doesn't like boba, finds it completely weird. lol but his tasted better then the one I had last time. I wonder why? Why'd it taste better now? 0.o....I got chrysanthem tea. Weird.... It's not even chrysanthem that I know of. Never again...I'll stick with milk teas.

    He got his butt beat on Smash brawl. He of course kept beating the crap out of my booty like each and every time. I had onlookers, so they were trying to help me and saying what buttons to push and laugh. C'mon, I'm a button smasher. I don't know what B button is. lol sheez... So then they all joined, and they kicked Rs booty for me. REVENGE!!!!!!!! Well okay, not really, I want my own personal revenge =p

    The Tea place is holding a Smash brawl tourney on March 17.

    Rennie, I think this post answers your question.

    Jo, lol well I don't know how it's stress relieving, I just like playing with doh since I took a ceramics class. I get to concentrate on making something pretty and everything else just seems to go away.

    DJ, lol I think I'm the same way as well at least I suppose so. I'm stubborn too.

    Online is terrible. Is it to hide from the girl because she's somewhat psycho or something? lol
  • justicevancho
    藝術家空間 Justice Vancho
    留言於2008-04-25 9:08AM [举报]
    Yeah apologizing is hard for guys who are too stubborn to apologize.  Hard for me to apologize when I feel I've done nothing wrong.  Not so hard when it's obvious I did something wrong though.

    Breaking up online is the best though...well ok not really but when it's almost impossible to do it in person breaking up online is a little better than leaving a dear jane letter.
  • joannayang
    藝術家空間 Joanna Yang
    留言於2008-04-25 8:43AM [举报]
    yup guess some guys generally have this ego thing and takes quite a lot for them to say sorry...

    But it's interesting that you play playdoh to relieve stress, guess it helps with all the squeezing, therapeutic-stress reliever. Maybe i should buy it for my kid next ime hehe
  • RenRen
    RenRen
    留言於2008-04-25 8:28AM [举报]
    Luckily my guy friends are not that way. If they do something that pisses me off, they will call me to apologize or do it in person.

    Are you going to talk to your man about this?
  • justicevancho
    藝術家空間 Justice Vancho
    留言於2008-04-25 6:05AM [举报]
    hmmm...yeah...ohhh boy....I'm sorry...
  • pongza
    pongza
    留言於2008-04-25 4:05AM
    ??? what vibes? You've not spoken, seen him nor met him before.

    In all reality, I don't think it's ever so possible to judge a person whom you've not spoken to nor seen in person.  Me on the other hand, judge away as much as you like. I've never revealed things about him on here other than his liking of daggers and snakes.

    His teasing of me, c'mon. That's for play and fun. I don't mean teasing as in bullying me.
  • carmellarose
    carmellarose
    留言於2008-04-25 3:51AM [举报]
    Pongza, that's the second warning sign I've seen.....The vibes I get about this guy aren't good, you shouldn't lower your standards of what you expect from anyone in your life in how they treat you.
  • janechu
    janechu
    留言於2008-04-25 1:36AM [举报]
    =(   **hugs**
  • peachey
    peachey
    留言於2008-04-25 1:18AM [举报]
    The "our" and "we" thing. Sounds like he's skirting the responsibility. He needs to clarify who he's apologizing for and rephrase it.

    Well, hopefully, he'll get in the habit of apologizing in person or at least by voice. It's too easy with texting and emails. I mean, I can type "I'm sorry" until the cows come home and I don't even need to feel sincerity when I do it. Continue pressing him to do that but in a calm manner. And you do likewise. Sometimes I think new couples get hot-and-bothered over some pretty small issues. I don't mean you, Ponger. Noo. =)
  • iggypuffygirl
    iggypuffygirl
    留言於2008-04-25 1:18AM [举报]
    guys love to break up online as well... they can't handle confrontation
  • yulien
    yulien
    留言於2008-04-25 1:16AM [举报]
    hmm...we have ups and downs in life.
    agree with tin, it's just harder for boys cause of ego. not a bad comment nor a good comment, but it's sort of a fact. i guess?
    me personally doesn't get frustrated in such situation. reason, i rather spend time being happy. don't have time to go neat picking on who's fault and what not. hahaha!
    he's an adult. i assume he'll know his own fault. for me, as long as i have done nothing wrong, i live my life happy. hahaha! if he's not, too bad. i'm having fun! :D tht's how i deal with things. :P
  • pongza
    pongza
    留言於2008-04-25 1:13AM
    But still that's a bad excuss and it's nothing to get used to. Apologies don't work the same way. Impressonal doesn't show sincerity. It's showing that you're hiding and not willing to admit that you or anyone was actually wrong.
  • tinlunlau
    tinlunlau
    留言於2008-04-25 12:55AM [举报]
    tsk...tsk...
    sorry to tell you this but it is very hard for a man to really apologize.  at least, he has the balls to apologize online.  you'd better get used to this, pongza.  that's just how we function.

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